February 18th, 2021
How Realistic is Group Decision-Making? (Spoiler Alert: Very)
Think of the leader of the management team as also being a member. However, leaders usually have special responsibilities in […]
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January 12th, 2021
“Okay, You’re the Boss.”
(from the L.E.T. book) What power does to leaders who use it is a topic seldom discussed in books and […]
January 12th, 2021
What Precisely Is the P.E.T. Method of Parenting?
(Newly-found speech from 1999!) When people ask me: what exactly is the P.E.T. method of parenting, I usually feel somewhat […]
December 17th, 2020
Love to Listen, But I CAN’T EVEN: What to Do in Case of Emotional Flooding
You know what you should be doing. You know, somewhere deep in the recesses of your logical, operational brain (which […]
November 12th, 2020
What’s the Most Effective Way to Confront Someone?
First, determine if what the other person is doing or saying is interfering with your ability to meet a concrete […]
November 12th, 2020
Is That Really Your Need?
Identifying needs is often difficult. Many children as well as adults will talk about solutions when asked for their needs: […]
October 27th, 2020
What Do You Do When Someone Uses Power Over You?
When coercive power is used on us to change our behavior, we immediately adopt one of these three possible responses: […]
October 14th, 2020
Tales from a P.E.T. Kid…Who became a P.E.T. Instructor…Who’s Now a First-time Mom
As a P.E.T. kid and instructor of the Gordon model myself, I was really looking forward to having a baby. […]
September 23rd, 2020
Isn’t Active Listening Just Another Way to Manipulate People?
First, let’s define Active Listening. Active Listening is a special way of feeding back your understanding of what the other […]
September 16th, 2020
Who’s Helping the Parents?
(from the P.E.T. book, 2019 revised edition) Everybody blames parents for the troubles of youth and for the troubles that […]