December 17th, 2020
Love to Listen, But I CAN’T EVEN: What to Do in Case of Emotional Flooding
You know what you should be doing. You know, somewhere deep in the recesses of your logical, operational brain (which […]
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November 12th, 2020
What’s the Most Effective Way to Confront Someone?
First, determine if what the other person is doing or saying is interfering with your ability to meet a concrete […]
November 12th, 2020
Is That Really Your Need?
Identifying needs is often difficult. Many children as well as adults will talk about solutions when asked for their needs: […]
October 27th, 2020
What Do You Do When Someone Uses Power Over You?
When coercive power is used on us to change our behavior, we immediately adopt one of these three possible responses: […]
October 14th, 2020
Tales from a P.E.T. Kid…Who became a P.E.T. Instructor…Who’s Now a First-time Mom
As a P.E.T. kid and instructor of the Gordon model myself, I was really looking forward to having a baby. […]
September 23rd, 2020
Isn’t Active Listening Just Another Way to Manipulate People?
First, let’s define Active Listening. Active Listening is a special way of feeding back your understanding of what the other […]
September 16th, 2020
Who’s Helping the Parents?
(from the P.E.T. book, 2019 revised edition) Everybody blames parents for the troubles of youth and for the troubles that […]
August 13th, 2020
Using Active Listening When Your Child is Upset
(excerpted from the P.E.T. workbook) In P.E.T., we use a conceptual Behavior Window to view behaviors of others = what […]
August 6th, 2020
“But I Was Just Trying To Help…”
Throughout our lives, we have learned a variety of ways to help other people when they have strong feelings, thoughts […]
July 15th, 2020
Tips on How to Handle Values Collisions in the Age of COVID-19
It’s official. I’ve been kicked off the guest list for an upcoming family wedding! Turns out, it’s payback for a […]